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My bosses boss approached me yesterday and said come to my office for a sec. I was like "oh shat,who in corporate did I piss off now?" In my head. So he closes the door and says "Corp. has reached out and asked for some help, would you be willing to work at another location during the week, come home weekends, two weeks in a row, stay here the next week then repeat for up to 3 months, if you could work it out that it did not smash your home life?" I said doing what?" He said " I can't tell you that unless you think you can work it out cause if you can't do it, it is irrelevant."
I am under consideration for a directors position this year and apparently this location is totally eff'ed up
He also said "you are being asked because of your leadership and ability to read and communicate to people, you were recommended by myself and several other people and I have not told your boss yet. I told them you have 3 kids and your wife works an off shift so if you turn it down because of home life it would not have a negative impact on your promotion ability in the future, we value family and understand"
I dream of a day when chickens can cross the road without having their motives questioned.
Damn. Talk about a sticky situation. I think you have to have a sit down with your family on this one. Work is important, don't get me wrong, especially if you have a chance for a promotion but on my book family must come first. Discuss with your wife, she may have some insight
It isn't easy, ask any of the other military guys on her who have been seperated 6-18 months. If the ends justfies the means for YOUR FAMILY then do it. I'm currently geographically seperated from my family for 10 months....I only get home on holiday weekends and it aint easy. 3 months will go buy in a snap, you and your family may actually grow from it. There can be some stress when you come home to realize your wife does just fine without you...not being a smart alike, its the truth!
Yeah, I "think" it is 250-300 miles away too.
Easy answer for me. As an Army JAG, I worked Monday through Friday as the Senior Defense Counsel at Ft. Eustis (VA) and came home to Clifton (VA) on weekends. I did this for 6 months until the SDC slot opened up at Ft. Belvoir. My two daughters were ages 3 and 1 at the time. We survived just fine. The experience really made me appreciate my family!
I travel a ton for a living (it does get old after a while...) but if your family would be able to deal with it, it's only really four 2 week stints in a 3 month period and you'd get to be home for a week between each so 8 weeks gone 4 weeks home and then back to your company. Would probably be a major feather in your cap if you all could pull it off. The flip side is, you work to support your family and your job is what you do not who you are - most important thing is your family. So I guess bottom line is if your family can handle it for those little stints it would probably be worth it, but nothing is worth jeopardizing the family life over.
Also in case of any kind of emergency it really only is a 5 hour drive which isn't that bad at 300 miles away. I travel to Chicago quite often and choose to drive over fly for convenience and the 5 and a half to 6 hr drive isn't bad. When I had an emergency at home a few years back I hopped in the car at 5pm and was home by 11. It would probably be more difficult if it were across the country but 5 hrs isn't so bad.
So it, it will look good down the line. I hate traveling for long times too but you have to make that sacrifice for the overall greater good.
Skype and FaceTime helps me a lot on a airplane and in hotels.
Agree, if you can find a way to make it happen it could be good for you in the future. Plus you may be able to negotiate a pay raise for the hassle.
Only if the family agrees and understands everything. Family first in my book!
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All pretty much the same thoughts I had as well, when I moved to Illinois I lived in a hotel for 2 months with her in Florida but she was a stay at home mom then now she has a job on second shift which which would have left the kids alone 2 nights a week but my mom agreed to come over those 2 nights so that's handled. I just wanted to grab some of y'all's thoughts and experiences and you guys are totally coming through, thank you greatly
In work, you sometimes have to some things that totally suck. You have to do this. This could affect you at work for the next 20 years so a few months might be worth it. If it was me, I would make it work. Good luck!!!!!
3 months is a short period of time. If you could pull this off, it would look great to the company. Obviously, you need to talk to your wife and get her on board. Perhaps doing this would allow you to receive the additional income to afford her the opportunity to stay home with the kids (if that is something that is important to you).
One thing to consider is if you do this and it goes well, will they eventually ask you to move there? Is this a city you could see yourself living in? I would ask some questions and try and find out more information to make a better informed decision. However, based on the information given in this thread, I would try and get my wife on board if I were you.
Make sure your family can handle it. Even coming home weekends will put a strain on the relationship. I spent 6 months away from my family without coming home weekends. It work out okay, but it was hard at times. I wasn't local either, I was in Honduras.
Like a lot of others have said, I traveled my entire career. My wife did a great job of raising the kids and even a grandchild now. She is a lot stronger than I ever thought she was and I really appreciate retirement being around all of the time now. It has made me a little wiser but a lot more appreciative of the things we have and most importantly the time we have together.
Good luck and make sure she is part of your decision. She will appreciate the opportunity to give you input.
First thing I'd do is delete your Bucknuts account. If they find out you're GF, they'll probably terminate you.
But seriously - what happens if you sai you'd be willing to travel, but after they tell you te assignment, you then don't want to do it? Are you still committed?
You can't handle the truth
See if they will kick in a little extra money so that you can hire someone to help out your wife with the kids. Maybe be able to hire a baby sitter for 3 hours a day or something.
Depends on your family life. If you think your marriage and family can handle the separation and inconvenience for 3 months then go for it. Regardless of what your boss says, this will limit your future opportunities. In the future when similar opportunities come up, they will remember this and may lean a different way.
If the family is O. K. with the move then go back and sit down and make sure the money is worth it. Money talks and bullshit walks. They should compensate you very well. If they take care of you then do it and if not work hard and you will get another chance. I have worked in Management for 20 years so that's my addvice.
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