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the ex is in the best position becuz it sounds like ur gf is a lil naive or just dumb but seriously all he knows he has to do is hang around long enough. even if they AREN'T doin or saying anything naughty all he has to do is be under the guise of the "friend" even tho he want more and knows she still has feelings for him... once he gets her to start rationalizing it to herself and lieing to u its done man. trust has been broken.. cuz at that point its a waiting game and ur constantly wondering and worrying about the woman ur to marry and that'll drive u crazy and make u paranoid and jealous. he just has to keep the act up and wait for her to call with the news u broke it off and then he'll want to meet to "console" her. ur best bet is to get out man.

she said she doesn't feel like testing him is a big deal or wrong but she did it anyway when she told u she wouldn't.... then lied about it til u called her out. that's all u need to know. plays games and lies. chuck up the deuces.

Since you've been married before..I ain't telling you nothing you don't already know..BUT..marriage is hard. It's hard when there is complete trust and love. I can't imagine what it would be like if I didn't know for sure my wife was 100% truthful, faithful, and madly in love with me.

Wait until kids and mortgages and scheduling conflicts, money issues, etc.etc. happen. Sorry dude...you're not suppose to have problems like these before or during any point of your courtship or marriage.

Thanks for sharing though...you just gave me a reason to go give my wife a hug and kiss and tell her how much I love her and how thankful I am to have her!

Or down the road end up like Bax... running articles about love to his wife!!!! RUN DUDE!! j/k Bax... not really!

I think Bax here is a closet romance novel Kinda guy!!!!!!!

Steve, you already know the answer. You just needed some validation from the folks here. So, what's the holdup? You say you've been there before so you are in this with your eyes wide open. Sit down with the truth and move on. An honest life is the best life. Good luck Steve, glad I don't have to deal with this stuff.

Sorry to hear what you are going through.

Love is blind and you won't be able to see the situation clearly until you are far removed from it.

Everyone has nailed it . . . She is not fully commited to you and you will ultimately get hurt. It will be hard, but you should move on.

You need to walk away...I am in the same situation right now except I married her. Not worth the pain in the future! BTW looking for a good lawyer in Columbus...LOL

As said, marriage is hard with a solid foundation. What you are describing would be the same as building on shifting sands. Don't do it.

Ok first I feel your pain I've been thourgh something similar and I went too people for advice also got all kinds of suggestions but the one that stood out to me was a guy I worked said too me he said does it effect your relationship with her? And it really didn't so if your fine with then it shouldn'tmatter I just took as I can do anything since she was doing her thing so I did and she didn't like it.

But wait atleast until im not around because that is no respect at all texting right under your nose is a disgrace but like another poster stated previously if you two come back to each other so I guess it would be an open relationship without really saying you have one but like I said if you can't let her go then this maybe your solution if she can do it so can you! You both have that understanding.

On the other hand if your not into compromise then you need too let her go! a.s.a.p and your not sure she is cheating im sure she more than likely is cheating. You know that saying if it looks like a duck walks like a duck quacks like a duck then it's a duck if she didn't cheat why lie. Already and you two aren't even married yet! that's huge cut her loose if you can't stand the thought of her being around this d-bag.

Hope I helped.

you are being beyond soft. And extremely dangerous move you are about to make. You are entering a contract with a woman with no class. You is going to take half your shit. If she cared about you at all she wouldn't risk this behavior. Grow a pair and ditch this woman asap. You will like yourself a lot more if you do. She is stealing your pride. Don't force her to end the relationship with him. Leave her and she will be with him in a heartbeat. That will prove you did the right thing... Where are your boys to set you straight?

I hate to weigh in on this topic, but I am and I agree with everyone else. Unless you can't live without this chick you need to end the engagement.

A young relative of mine is going through the same crap. His wife had a text/e-mail habit going with a co-worker prior to the wedding - she kept doing it after the marriage even though asked to stop, then when my relative had to go out of town for business for a week, she ups and heads for the jerkwad's apartment. They hadn't been married quite a year. Flucking unbelieveable! He thinks he can work it out with her, we are all telling him that if she is doing it in your first year of marriage she is never gonna stop - get out now while you don't have a house and kids to worry about.

Unless you have those can't live without feelings, get out now while you don't have a wife and kids to worry about.

I hate f'ing texting.